Rediscovering Your Identity

Mom Identity: Tips on Rediscovering Your Identity

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After becoming a mom it is so easy to feel like you’ve lost your identity. You consider your family’s needs before your own and that is okay! But it is still so important to make time for yourself. If you are looking for ideas for rediscovering your identity we are sharing ideas and tips below.

When you are nurturing your own needs as well as your family, it will actually strengthen you and help you feel better to care for your family.

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Tips on Rediscovering Your Identity

Get Dressed

I know… Yoga pants are my go-to as well.  But if you are struggling to find your identity.  Getting dressed can help.

Find new ways to connect with friends

Moms are being pulled in a million different directions.  I have found that we have to be super intentional about building and keeping connections with our friends. Sometimes you need to get creative.

Try to set a monthly “girls’ night” if possible.  If that doesn’t work try hosting a play date monthly together. That is a great way to connect.

Another idea is to grab coffee and head for a walk or pack a picnic and take the kids to a local park.

Have a Hobby

Having something that you enjoy doing is so important.  It doesn’t have to be extravagant. I am sharing hobby ideas below.

Stop Comparing

”Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt.

You can not compare your life to someone else’s. If you are struggling with this, I suggest starting with evaluating the accounts you follow on social media.

A year ago I unfollowed a bunch. I just couldn’t keep up and realized I didn’t want to.  It has been so great!

Take Care of Yourself

This includes prioritizing your needs.  Dentist appointments, yearly checkups, exercise. When you are taking care of your essential needs you start to feel better.


Volunteering in our community is not only a fulfilling way to find purpose, but it’s also highly needed! Schools, non-profits, and committees rely on volunteers and are always on the lookout for more help

Hobby Ideas

Hobbies are a great way to feel more like yourself.  Hobbies help rejuvenate your mind.  We are sharing some of our favorite ideas below.

Hand Crafting

  • sewing
  • baking
  • knitting
  • soap making


  • photography
  • blogging
  • podcast
  • writing

DIY Projects

Pinterest would be a great place to start if you are into DIY projects! Sign making, painting, projects around the house.


  • hiking
  • running
  • walking
  • geocaching
  • paddleboarding
  • adult softball team


  • book clubs
  • dinner hosting
  • Trivia nights
  • mentoring
  • moms groups
  • groups through church (MOPS, Moms Connect, or MOPS Next is a great place to start)
  • bunco


Reading is such a fulfilling hobby.  You can get a library card for free! If you enjoy audiobooks you can use the Libby app and “checkout” audiobooks through your library card.

Make the Time

Time.  That can often be the tricky part, if it is a hobby that you can include your kids in excellent!  Yes, it’s more work but in the long run, you’ll have some great buddies to do it alongside you.

If not, moms have learned to be pretty creative with time.  You can trade babysitting with a girlfriend, ask a family member, or plan it when your partner is available.

Motherhood is full of different seasons.  Try to embrace each season and live it to the fullest.

Embrace the Season

Motherhood is full of different seasons.  Try to embrace each season and live it to the fullest.  Yes, it takes a lot of intention.  But, doing so can help you get through the hard stuff, and no it’s not always going to be perfect.  If you are also taking time to rediscover your identity, it can help you thrive throughout each season.


Kacey Queen is a co-founder of Nevada Moms

Kacey received her bachelor's in Psychology while cheering for the University of Oregon. They moved to Reno in 2014 and have loved it ever since. She is a dedicated homeschooling mother to her three children.

She serves on the hospital board for Northern Nevada Health Systems and is passionate about her community.

Kacey loves exploring with her family and finding family-friendly events and activities! A few of her favorite things include family adventures, traveling, working out, coffee, and dessert!